A St. Jude Miracle

Despite the fact that I'm a writer and that, by definition, means much of my life is public, I am at heart a private person. One of the mantras of my childhood was, "It's none of their business." So even today, while I'm happy to talk about a lot of things, there are places that I still feel "It's none of their business."

One of those areas is an unfolding miracle in my life. I've not wanted to talk about it with anyone, using "It's none of their business" as my reason. But I also know that when my faith and hope has flagged, hearing of answered prayer has bolstered me and given me courage.

So I decided to share as much of my story as I can, given that it involves another person and I cannot expose their privacy unless or until they are willing to allow me. So if some of the details are necessarily a bit vague, it's because I can't really reveal them to the world at large. (But if you truly want to know, leave your email in the comments and I'll tell you privately.)

It began shortly after my mother's death--the first anniversary of which is coming next week. I had a difficult and complicated relationship with her.  Although she had many wonderful qualities and gifts, she was also a classic narcissist. She wanted me, her only child, to devote my entire life and being to her. She wanted all my love, all the time, and the only person she was willing to share me with was my son--her grandson. Because of her controlling and demanding nature, I have a trail of broken relationships scattered through my life; people I sacrificed in order to give my mother the love and attention she so craved and demanded. At the time, I didn't realize what I was doing because, as I said, I had such a complicated relationship with my mother that I could not distinguish her wishes from my own desires. But that is another story on my life and faith journey.


One relationship in particular was utterly destroyed and lost for 15 years. No contact at all. I didn't even really know where the person was, except a sort of vague idea of the state they lived in. I had no hope of ever finding that person, much less rebuilding a relationship.

Then, one day about a month after my mother died, I was in the area of the garage where I stored her things that I needed to sort (and still do). I opened a box, filled with stacks of her papers. She wrote incessantly, copying everything from prayers to recipes to ideas that caught her fancy. She never did anything with them, but put them in stacks, which are now in boxes. I pulled out handful of papers and on the top of one was a prayer to St. Jude--and a mention of the person whose relationship had been destroyed.  Apparently, unbeknownst to me, mother had had some feelings of remorse about it all and at some point in her life had written out a prayer to St. Jude asking him to help me. (She never told me about her feelings and had I tossed out that stack of papers without reading them I would have never known.)

I knew that St. Jude was the saint of the impossible and certainly this seemed impossible. But, I prayed to him, not even quite sure what I was asking him for. However, it seemed more than mere coincidence that I should have found that particular piece of paper amid the boxes.

Over the next few weeks, I kept praying and began to try to find this person. They don't use social media, didn't have a listed phone and I really didn't even know where to begin except with their name and a possible address.  I wrote to the address, but didn't get a reply. I searched the internet and data bases with no luck until one day I stumbled onto a phone number. I called and amazingly it was the answering machine for that person! I left a message, not knowing what to except, but I continued to pray, asking St. Jude's intercession.

A few days later, there was a message on my answering machine. They had called back! I returned the call and this time we connected. We talked for several hours, about what had happened, and what part my mother had played in it all.  Since then, we have continued to talk, to rebuild our relationship and recently we met up and spent some time together in person, healing more of the deep wounds. We learned that the love we had never died, even over those long years, and while neither of us ever dreamed it would be possible for renewal, neither did we ever consider the possibility of a miracle.

I don't know where the road is leading or what will come next, but I do know that St. Jude, saint of the impossible, heard my prayer (and perhaps the prayer my mother wrote so many years earlier). It is nothing short of a miracle that a completely annihilated relationship could undergo restoration.

I've not wanted to talk about this, perhaps for fear that it will all fall apart and instead of being a miracle it will have turned out to be a heart-rending cosmic hoax. But as I stand on the cusp of the anniversary of my mother's death, I've decided that no matter what happens, what has already happened is a miracle; a miracle that began with a prayer to St. Jude, saint of the impossible.